One day you wake up, look in the mirror and you realize you’re getting older. It might be the gray hairs in your eyebrows, , beard, mustache nose or more grey hairs in your hair. Also, there’s the aging face and “slightly bigger”potbelly. You may have even noticed how much weight you put on overall and can’t seem to get off although you continue to go to the gym. Even though you recognize you’ve aged and are somewhat okay with it, it seems the community is not.
I talked to younger and older gay Black guys who said older guys shouldn’t be at the clubs, that they have been there, done that and they should leave the clubs to the young people. A lot of younger guys don’t like older guys being around them and by the same token many older guys don’t like being around younger guys. It’s like we should never invade each other’s world. Many young people aren’t open to being mentored by older men because they lived in a time without technology so what can they learn from them.
Older guys are viewed by younger guys as something like “child predators” and yes, there are older guys going after them. Many older guys aren’t looking at guys around their ages and a number of them are burnt out by the whole relationship thing. They’ve been in too many bad relationships to really want to be in another one so they just hang out with a friend or two. It seems the gay lifestyle caters to the young and not the old.
Do you think “the gay life” slows down for older Gay Black men and if so is it their choice or is it ageism?
(Ageism is a form of discrimination that casts judgment on the lifestyles, personalities and abilities of individuals strictly based on accepted stereotypes about their age. It is most often seen against senior citizens, but it can often be seen on the young as well. It is a method of formulating stereotypes of the lives of individual and then using these stereotypes to develop a prejudice. This negatively affects groups like senior citizens by making them feel as if they are seen as nothing but noncontributing members of a community, despite a lifetime of being an asset to society.)