Getting the weight off our shoulders so we can have a healthier community


 

Wouldn’t it be nice if the two most negative aspects of our community became obsolete, liers & cheaters. As one of the co-moderators of Nubian Knights I’m charged with approving membership. One of the questions asked in the application process is “What is your biggest problem with men?” In the members I have approved 99.9% of them answered “cheating and/or lying” with “trust”being the 2nd most response. Those actions seem to be the most prominent and divisive issues preventing us from having a more cohesive community. I believe if our community truly worked on eliminating them or curtailing the need to lie, cheat and loose the trust so vital to a relationship we have a more healthier community.
 
Although I don’t think it’s realistic to believe men in our community will never lie or cheat on a man they’re dating or in a relationship with, I never thought I see the day when we would have an African-American President of the United States. Men lie for different reasons, for one thing, to get sex without the baggage (having to deal with all that goes into maintaining a relationship). Men lie to cover up their true intention in wanting to date you, to avoid any drama in their partner becoming jealous when nothing is going on and men lie when they’re cheating on their man. Men cheat for several reasons, because they can, they have willing “partners in crime.” Their significant other isn’t satisfying their sexual needs. They can limit themselves to having one sexual partner.
 
Is it realistic to go to the simple solution and say “Just stop lying and cheating” or “Guys just stop making yourselves available for a guy who wants to cheat” and there will be no more or less cheating. Or is a much deeper solution needed than asking guys to just stop?

Views: 168

Comment

You need to be a member of Nubian Knights to add comments!

Join Nubian Knights

MAKE TRAVEL PAYMENTS HERE

Photos

  • Add Photos
  • View All

feed://davidatlanta.com

Obsessed: Tacos, how I love thee

Who isn’t obsessed with tacos? They’re my favorite food group, even more than pizza. By Tony Gowell In fact, some of my earliest memories of tacos involve an old Mexican restaurant that friends of my parents once owned. Their names were Juan and Maria Gonzalez, and to this day I can still smell the heated...

Datebook: Can’t-miss gay ATL events

The LGBT party train may start with Cinco de Mayo, but there’s so much more fun to be had from there. Compiled by Mike Fleming Queer Moxie Comedy Show Help promote and raise funds toward the in-process Atlanta movie about that certain something LGBT entertainers bring to their acts. The movie’s drag, burlesque and other...

Hey, Daddy! Questions for every gay couple

When it feels like every gay person you know is getting married, and you’re wondering if you should too, here’s what you should really be asking yourself. Hey, Daddy! My social feeds are packed with gay weddings. Not just longtime couples finally able to get hitched, but other guys getting married for any reason, no...

Night tripping with DJ King Atlas

Take a trip with the local DJ and alternaqueer party architect who says he’s on a mission to shake things up in gay Atlanta’s nightlife By Mike Fleming Growing up in Villa Rica, Ga., wasn’t exactly nurturing to the music in the man who would become DJ King Atlas. Luckily for gay Atlanta, a string of...

Papi serves up Cinco de Gay-O

Sync your Cinco calendar with the holiday’s biggest gay party, delivering DJs, drinks, drag queens and dudes for days. By Mike Fleming That buzz you hear like freight train hurtling toward you is the month of May. If you thought sunny April was badass, gay Atlanta kicks into overdrive, and it all starts with Papi’s...

© 2016   Created by Levi Ray Johnson.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service